Have you ever heard of the term, “dating yourself” ?
Not as in, “Remember Tomagotchi’s?! OMG I’m so dating myself.”
But the other kind.
You know, like, carving out a couple hours on a Saturday afternoon to go do something alone? Eating at a restaurant by yourself? Catching a movie solo?
Ever done that?
What’s so funny, is that back when I was 22, I went through a period of time where I did that kind of thing a lot. I remember the first few weeks after I quit my horrible first job (one that totally sucked the life out of me where I had time to do nothing but work)–I used to get up early on Saturday and Sunday mornings to go take a workout class in Bucktown.
At the time, nobody I knew ever came over here or even lived West of the Gold Coast, so stealing away and going to breakfast by myself after a workout class with nothing but a book (imagine that?) felt like a crazy indulgence that I would never tell anyone else about–like taking a mini vacation.
(This, of course, was back before I had a blog, before Instagram even existed.)
Now, even just a few years later, it seems so much harder to disconnect, to get away to do something like this.
But lately, I’ve made it a little habit of mine to pop into my neighborhood bookstore (Volumes–it’s one of my favorites!) to take a mini-time out every once in awhile. I love grabbing a book, ordering a glass of wine or a coffee, and just disappearing into a corner for an hour or so.
Or often on my way home from wherever I happened to be that day, I’ll make it a point to take a 20 minute detour and stop into a new shop I’ve been meaning to check out. Or sometimes when Neal is out of town, I’ll go to the grocery store with a point to make a nice meal just for myself. (Cooking is one of my all-time favorite ways to wind-down!)
Whatever it is, just carving out a tiny bit of alone time to do something just for yourself can be the difference between a fulfilling, busy week and a stressful one that has you counting down the minutes until the weekend.
At least, that’s my definition of “dating myself.”